Consecutive Days

Chaka and I went out again last Sunday. I'm now doing five warm ups (five really quick "Hi!"s within a minute of each other) to get myself pumped up and then 10 "challenges." This week's challenge was walking up to a girl, making a comment and walking away. Chaka and I were pressed for time so we went to Takashimaya and made the rounds on each floor: We each had to approach a girl before moving to the next floor. I think we managed ten approaches in about half an hour. Sometimes I get some sparks of creativity that are a lot of fun. I'll make notes of that in the future.

I've also come up with some "stages" or harder things I'd like to try should what I am currently working on no longer feel like a challenge. Currently, I'm going out twice a week, giving myself one minute per warm up and no time limit on the rest of the approaches, approaching 15 girls total, generally during the day time with a partner. My approaches are simple. In the future, I'd like to increase the frequency (3+ times a week), number of girls (20-50), time of day, going out by myself, doing more challenging approaches, etc.

Stefan and I did our first of three consecutive days yesterday. The warm up was fun, but we went to Umeda at night and it was pretty tough. We wound up trying to squeeze in our last ones at Hep Five right before they closed.

I haven't had any number closes yet, but oh well.

The previous "success" has ceased to bother me. I'm in a good spot right now. I've been seeing three girls regularly, all of whom are crazy about me, and had sex with another one who could easily become a regular soon (she's married and we've known each other awhile). On top of that, there are a few other prospects, all very young (which I don't have yet). Little by little I'm learning that, at least in a big city like this, there are opportunities abound. Just keep your eyes open.

I think the whole "inner game" thing is less about girls "noticing" your improvement and more about you learning how to find and utilize opportunities more often. I see girls on the street noticing me more, and I think it has less to do with them noticing my changes than me being in the mindset of seeking out opportunities and going for them. Still working on the "utilizing" part though.

I love being a positive improvement on people's lives. One of my regulars called me out of the blue, just to talk. It was easy to tell she was down. Without even talking about her problems, within five minutes she was her usual genki self. Because she called me. That's a great feeling. It's even better when she emailed me later to thank me, saying she was glad she knew me. That's what I want to provide for women: Making them glad they took a chance/risk to get to know someone new.

Haven't emailed Nao. Luka said she was gonna stop by the bar on the 29th when I work. We'll see.

Ai1 (the girlfriend) and I are still getting along. I'm seeing Makiko on Saturday. I'm seeing Kayo this Thursday. She's in love with me, but has a financee (thankfully). May invite Yasuko out, dunno yet. Ai2 (short, cute and very smart girl who's a potential) and I had a date on Sunday. She cancelled. Sick, apparently. Meh. Said she's going to invite me out again, we'll see. Ayano (a girl I had fun with last Saturday) may come out to Coolabah next month. May go out to eat with Ako. Asuka and a friend of hers and myself and a friend of mine may have a picnic or house party or something. Same with Miho, who just broke up with her boyfriend (trying not to get too excited about that).

Sexy bartender turned out to be one of those small windows of opportunity. I had the opportunity but didn't quite go through it fully, and now it's closed. Oh well. Definitely did better this time than the times before.

Miki came over. I messed that up, in a sense. I think I played it really well, but I stopped myself again. She was on my bed, leaning towards me, touching my leg and such... and all I did was kino. I made up some lame excuses in my head and didn't go for it. The problem clicked though. Initially I had this mindset that there was "some" mental block preventing me from escalating with women. I got it. I take it too seriously. It clicked with me that it was no problem getting Miki to hang out with me, flirt with me, touch me and come over to my place, even though she mostly just chattered about her boyfriend. She even stayed over later than planned. Why? Because I didn't care. It was all play. It was "I feel like saying this, so let's just see how she reacts." or "I feel like touching her here, so let's see what she does." All with positive results. So why didn't I grab her or touch her sensually or kiss her? My mindset was "Ok, that stuff isn't play, that's serious." Uh uh! It's all play. In hindsight, I wish I had just grabbed her waist and pulled her towards me to see what she would have done. My gut tells me she wouldn't have resisted. Actually, she may have resisted but either a) only initially or b) she still would have liked it. I know I would have. For next time.

I'm still focused on meeting girls on the street and from mixi. I came up with some ideas for mixi as well: Once I fill My Mixi with friends, people I know and/or good contacts (business owners, DJs, etc.), I'll use My List to add girls who I want to meet individually. In other words, mixi for friendship and business, list for flirting and pick up. Basically girls who don't seem like they'd be great connections (don't have a lot of friends) but are cute and interesting, put on my list and flirt and experiment with. Anybody else, schmooze and add to my mixi.

Everything else I'm just plugging away at! Like I said, the party was a success; I surpassed my profit goal and my number of people goal. I've decided that if I can do it again next month, I'm going to add to my repertoire. Right now, an evening party at Slices seems appropriate. Again, once a month. I think my goal there would be 5000 a month and at least 12 people. Should be fun.